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Puppy Training: Are You Asking Too Much, Too Soon?

Puppy Training: Are You Asking Too Much, Too Soon?

NYC Dog Trainer | Dog Relations | Puppy training tips

Conventional advice given will say: don’t reinforce the dog’s behavior when he is “misbehaving”.

This may apply to certain situations, for example: don’t pat your dog while he is clawing at your thighs. But then there are different situations that make it more difficult to decide what to do.

For example: your puppy is crying while in the crate. Generally speaking you think “well, he likes the crate, but now for some reason he wants out and is whimpering”. But then you think: “I was told not to let him out until he is quiet to teach him that whining isn’t going to become a habit in the form of  a demanding behavior”.

So, you wait. The puppy is in there for 20 minutes crying. Finally, finally the complaining stops and you let the puppy out. Both you and the dog feel great relief that the suffering is over. But what has happened in the meantime? What has the puppy learned? What have you learned?

In fact, both of you have experienced crate time as mostly a pain in the neck. The incentive for trying this again is low, filled with anxiety and anticipation of yet another struggle.

I had this experience with a client the other day and wanted to share my thoughts.

My client reported that her puppy was happy in the crate but after a while the puppy started to whine and it took over a half hour for her to stop. Why is the puppy crying? Nothing has changed? She “likes” the crate! When I read that text I thought: Why did you leave the puppy in there for so long? Was there a reason?  I know this client well and I know it was done with best intentions in the name of “crate training”.

I guess the real reason is we humans are greedy and ambitious. “Greedy” in the sense that we want too much too soon. After all the puppy has been with me for 3 days! Panic sets in. She will NEVER, EVER be able to like her crate! That then turns into the human hating the crate and there we have it: general failure.

So here is what actually happened.

I asked the client to work in short increments. The puppy walks into the crate voluntarily, you reward the puppy close the door. Keep rewarding the puppy while she is still happy and quiet and then let the puppy out of the crate after a minute and play a great game with her. I asked the client to vary the amount of time from ridiculously short to up to a couple of minutes and the client complied.

The next morning, she texted me this: “I’m totally thrilled. The puppy went into the crate on her own at night and ended up sleeping happily in the crate with the door closed for 8 hours and we were both happy. THANK YOU! THANK YOU!!!!”

While she was very happy about the results, she still didn’t understand why the method I suggested was so successful. This is why: as a teacher, you want to reward a desired behavior as highly and as often as you can in the shortest amount of time. I simply asked the client to reward her puppy at a much higher rate of reinforcement. I did not allow frustration or failure to come into the picture at all since I also asked her not to ask for too much. In this case it was the duration of the behavior. Short and sweet really pays off.


Elisabeth Weiss is a highly certified, experienced dog trainer in Manhattan, NYC. To learn more about dog training services, contact us by phone at (917) 783-1473 or our contact form.

  1. How adorable! Such manners for Nono and Sia. Very creative on the adults end.

    Comment by karen on June 10, 2011 at 10:42 pm
  2. That is totally hilarious! Great job and really fun to watch!

    Comment by Fran on June 10, 2011 at 10:59 pm
  3. Actually my friend and website designer Kendra Dixson was the person who sent me the video. So 99% of the credit goes to her!

    Comment by Elisabeth on June 11, 2011 at 7:55 am
  4. Hee hee, well a good friend of mine forwarded it to me so the list goes on. I think it is so cute and I’m amazed at how well the dogs are behaved, although you do see a little help from the human hands so they don’t dive their noses into their dish. lol

    Comment by Kendra Dixson on June 11, 2011 at 2:56 pm
  5. yes the dogs are great! I also liked HOW they helped the dogs by pretending it was a human “putting your chin in your hands” gesture. It is most entertaining.

    Comment by Elisabeth Weiss on June 11, 2011 at 3:24 pm